We’re always being told what not to say nowadays. If you think I’m about to say to hell with that, think again. Learning to be a little more sensitive can go a long way. Diverse families are becoming more and more common and sometimes it seems others haven’t kept a pace with what this means.…
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A Family of Three: Six Months On
Somehow, my baby is six months already. Six months. Six months of parenting two and I’m not sure what to say. I read other posts about such milestones. They focus on the ups and downs of the baby and child bonding, of the conflicts of loving two littles, and of the exhaustion of doing it…
Sperm Bank Adverts and Online Dating: The Similarities and Differences
I’ve learnt a lot since I started on my journey of becoming a solo mum by choice. Sperm bank websites might not traditionally be held up as key cultural reference points, but an alien from outer space could find worst places to learn about a country’s cultural norms than checking out their biggest sperm bank. Whilst the…
Second Trimester Pregnancy As a Solo Mum By Choice
After the nausea and dizziness of the first trimester, I was really holding out for the second trimester to be easier. I remember it being physically pretty easy first time round – it was the emotional side that was a real struggle then. I didn’t relax with my son until I was about 27 weeks…
My Mummy’s Pregnant: A Four Year Old’s Viewpoint
Mummy forgot my scooter when she came to pick me up from nursery today. On the way home she said she had a surprise to tell me when we got back. I wish the surprise had been my scooter. In the end she gave me a piggyback. But I prefer the scooter. When we got…
I’ve Got Something To Tell You
Those of you who have been reading this blog over the last few months will know I’ve been undergoing fertility treatment. It’s been a long and arduous journey but recently I got to share some good news – finally. I’m pregnant. I still can’t believe I get to write those words, but it’s true. There’s…
Solo Mum By Choice: Attempt Number Six
So here I am, attempt number six is under my belt. I’m writing this as I’m a third of the way through the dreaded two week wait. After the first few days I thought I was doing better than last time. Chilling my way through week one, knowing that I needed to be emotionally strong…
When Fertility Treatment Fails
I was trying to work out my dates the other day. They’re scrawled in one of my many notebooks, a simultaneous mess of scribbles and dates. My cycles vary from super short (the stimulated ones) to super long (the aborted stimulated ones) with a few in betweeners (the rare natural cycles I’ve had in recent…
Fertility Treatment, Round Four – Is This The One?
I wanted to call this post fourth time lucky. In the end I opted for a more neutral title, after all I’m never too sure if positive thinking works, or it’s just tempting fate. So here I am, attempt number four. I had a scan on day three to check I could start the process. Gone…
Fertility Treatment Failure: Third Time Unlucky
I didn’t mean to give the game away with the title. In fact, when I started writing this post it was entitled Fertility Treatment Failure: Third Time Lucky. I am actually an optimistic person despite recent events. That was before. It’s 1pm. I’m sat on a curb. I’ve just come from the clinic. I’ve been writing…