I’ve learnt a lot since I started on my journey of becoming a solo mum by choice. Sperm bank websites might not traditionally be held up as key cultural reference points, but an alien from outer space could find worst places to learn about a country’s cultural norms than checking out their biggest sperm bank. Whilst the…
Single Motherhood
Second Trimester Pregnancy As a Solo Mum By Choice
After the nausea and dizziness of the first trimester, I was really holding out for the second trimester to be easier. I remember it being physically pretty easy first time round – it was the emotional side that was a real struggle then. I didn’t relax with my son until I was about 27 weeks…
My Mummy’s Pregnant: A Four Year Old’s Viewpoint
Mummy forgot my scooter when she came to pick me up from nursery today. On the way home she said she had a surprise to tell me when we got back. I wish the surprise had been my scooter. In the end she gave me a piggyback. But I prefer the scooter. When we got…
Pregnancy: First Trimester as a Solo Mum
So, this is it. I’m doing this pregnancy thing. No turning back now. Like many women out there, I’m doing it alone. After seeing the pregnancy line grow darker over the days, it still took me a while to believe that I was actually pregnant and even longer to accept that in less than nine months…
Life After Divorce: A Letter To My Newly Divorced Self
Dear Newly-Divorced-Me, It’s you here, well me – only now I’m three years into this divorce malarky so I’m a bit more clued up than you – the me of yesteryear. I remember the first day you were alone. It was hell. Actually scrap that, hell requires you feel the pain. You were numb and everything…
My New Year’s Resolution: When Being Selfish Is Kind
My new year’s resolution this year is clear, simple and to the point. I’m going to be selfish. By the end of last year I was at breaking point (again). Most nights ended up in tears (mine, and occasionally little man’s), I got angry in a way I never wanted to and at times it…
Fertility Treatment Failure: Third Time Unlucky
I didn’t mean to give the game away with the title. In fact, when I started writing this post it was entitled Fertility Treatment Failure: Third Time Lucky. I am actually an optimistic person despite recent events. That was before. It’s 1pm. I’m sat on a curb. I’ve just come from the clinic. I’ve been writing…
10 Best Gifts for Single Mums
Know a single parent? Not sure what to get them for Christmas? But you want to get them something they want? Something they really, really want? Look no further, this is the perfect single mum Christmas gift guide with something for all wallets. (I’ve written this for single mums but they are all also perfect…
Childhood Chores For Three Years Old
Is it just me or are there a load of posts going round about the chores that kids can, and should, be doing lately? I thought perhaps I could bring some added insight on this debate as a solo mum. Raising a child alone means doing all the housework, and – ironically – it means…
Solo Mum Waiting To Take A Pregnancy Test
There are two weeks between insemination and taking a pregnancy test. This unit of measurement glosses over all that entails though; the 14 days; the 336 hours; the 20, 160 minutes; the 1, 209, 600 seconds. Each and every single one of those is felt in excruciating detail when you’re in the midst of the…